Relationship between a parent and a child

I think that parents should set aside time and endeavor to develop and maintain a
spiritually intimate friendship with each of their children beginning before they take
any action that might result in the conception of a child.

I would hope that a parent and child would become
friends and have a spiritually
intimate love relationship with one another. However, unless a child is taught or
learns in some other way, they can’t be a
friend because they don’t know what a
friend is or how to be one. So, I believe the parent has responsibility to model and
to teach their child about how to love GOD, themselves, and others and how to
have love relationships and the child has responsibility to learn.  In addition, I
believe that a parent has the responsibility and authority to discipline their child
should their child fail to: be supportive of the optimal freedom of another or fail to
complete the righteous duties assigned them by a parent. I hope that upon reaching
adulthood when the parent loses their authority over the child, the child will have
learned what they need to know from the parent(s) and the parent and child may
continue their relationship as a
friendship. Hopefully, with the help of GOD and their
parent(s) or guardian(s), the child will grow into a spiritually, mentally, and
physically healthy adult with spiritually intimate love relationships with GOD, their
spouse (if any), their child or children (if any), their parents, and their friend(s), and
with healthy love relationships with others.

However, I believe a human is born essentially consensually immature – in other
words, not having the maturity and/or mental capacity to make rational choices
necessary to act in their own best interest in regard to consenting to agreements.  I
believe they need to be protected by their parents and/or guardians from the
criminal and immoral behavior of others, and from engaging in such behavior
themselves. Also, I think children should be taught to protect themselves as well as
reasonably possible.

Children, obey your parents in the LORD: for this is right.  Honour thy father and
mother; which is the first commandment with a promise; that it may be well with
thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.  And, ye fathers, provoke not your
children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the LORD
Ephesians 6:1-4 (King James Version)
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